Before I start I have to say that I love my friends. At this particular point in time I am putting the spotlight on a particular friend, who goes to a particular law school, around Boston, on the Cambridge side of the river…you know who you are. This person is on my favorite list because she always matches, if not surpasses, me in the ability to say hilarious, ridiculous, but always true statements. For example while discussing the successful woman’s task in finding a suitable, comfortable in his own skin which allows him not to be threatened by your ambition and the success that it brings, life partner (you know normal dinner conversation), she exclaimed, “I’m just going to keep working on my self, and at 35, I’ll just find my Stedman!” I died with laughter, DIED! While funny her comment resonates with a lot of go-getter ladies out there. So let’s explore it.
First things first, who is Stedman? Stedman Graham is Oprah Winfrey’s other half. Oprah started dating him while she was gaining recognition for her talk show, and they’ve been together ever since. Who is Oprah Winfrey? If you don’t know, please STOP reading my blog…jk keep reading.
The idea of giving up the whole love game, especially when wins are scarce, to focus on building a more fabulous you, and returning to the field , after you’ve become a baller/tycoon/ more awesome than you already are, is a tempting one. I battle this temptation often, like every time I walk out of a singles mixer, and since I’m Mormon and go to a singles congregation, its like every week. But I digress.
Yet, no matter how tempting it may be, we can’t take part in this “I’ll focus on my love life after I’m successful strategy.” In no way am I saying to forgo *success, this is my blog after all. I’m suggesting that we make time for both, because we will be all the better for it. First off all work and no play (get it?) makes a *dull girl. Also, even though they are slippery and hard to catch, kissing frogs is fun, very fun, and you never know which one will turn into your highly supportive, equally great Prince. Finally, if we closely examine the Oprah-Stedman model ( i.e. check out her wiki page…What? It’s a totally legitimate source) we will see that Mama O was playing the field like an *MVP before she met Stedman. She’s been linked to several men prior to Stedman, including Soft Rock radio host John Tesh (I love me some Soft Rock, don’t act like you don’t). Even with a blow like Tesh quitting the relationship because he couldn’t handle the interracial aspect, didn’t cause Mama O to sit out of the game. And if she can do it, well I’ll be damned if I’m not inspired to keep at it.
In wrapping this post up, I’d rather not end with some *motivational Mom phrase, like, “Don’t give up, he’s out there.” But since its 12:40am and I need to be well rested so I can be a rock star at work and an MVP in the Love Game (I’m not a player I just crush a lot), that’s what we’re going with.
*Success- you define the parameters. Right now, mine includes Canada, other regions to follow.
*Dull Girl-please see my h.s. year book photo and any photos from my Senior year of College.
*Motivational Mom Phrases- Mom don’t ever stop saying these to me. They are the only thing preventing me from becoming a cat lady, that and the fact that 1) I hate cats & 2) I’m one hell of a lady so your words are less of a needed reminder and more like fodder for my flame of confidence. (Yes I am aware of how ridiculous that last line is, just go with it)
Five points for the first person that knows which existientialist novel the title of this post references…no googling. But seriously I can’t see you, so do what you have to. Post your answer, and anything else you want, in the comments.
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